It would be nice to think the offices belonging to dating apps and websites are brimming with matchmakers offering up impeccable matches every single day.
Unfortunately, that’s not the case. If it were true, the cost of using online dating service providers would be astronomical.
Instead, users are presented with ideal future partners by sophisticated bots.
Romantic, eh?
If the thought of relying on dating algorithms prickles you, consider this.
Internet dating is a competitive market. As of writing, there are over 1500 service providers operating worldwide.
This means the technical wizards behind them need to be successful. They need you to be paired with ideal matches. They want you to invest time, effort and money into their services. Their reputation and success depends on it. So, every single advance in internet dating algorithm technology happens with the sole purpose of making internet dating a better experience for YOU.
Otherwise you’ll leave. And they don’t want that.
How Internet Dating Algorithms Gather Data
Algorithms learn everything they need to learn about you, through you.
You know how Netflix serves suggested viewings based on your past viewings and your feedback?
Well, that is how dating algorithms work too.
They reflect your behaviour and search criteria. They gather information in a variety of ways, including:
Information gathered through questionnaires.
Your search criteria.
Any feedback you provide.
Information gathered through linked socials - A quick note here, if you link your Facebook profile to your internet dating profile, have a quick look through and tidy up any images you have on there.
Every click, swipe and connection made on the site.
Messages sent and received.
If telephone numbers are exchanged.
Is It Possible To Outsmart The Algorithm?
In a nutshell. No.
I have read about people jumping through hoops of fire in an attempt to play the system, but I’d bet my bottom dollar they know what you’re doing, and they will penalise you for it.
But can you CHANGE the algorithms if they’re not working for you?
Yes, you can.
However, because the algorithm has learned everything about you, by you, it will take some time to relearn your preferences.
If you’ve only selected men in suits and wake up tomorrow with a fancy for biker dudes, don’t expect it to recognise this change in behaviour overnight. Patience is key.
Also, it’s a good idea to enter the dating arena with a solid understanding of the people who intrigue you and have an element of flexibility.
For example, if you want to date tall women who are only over 5’10” be open to people 5' 8” - you never know, you could land yourself a 5’9” wife with every other quality on your priority list. It would be a shame to miss out on her over one poxy inch.
How To Make The Algorithms Work For You
I’ve compiled a list of how you can ensure you enjoy a better online dating experience than 90% of the people out there.
Nothing I’m about to mention is about ‘gaming the system’. It’s all straightforward online dating advice that enables the algorithms to do their job - present you with perfect matches day in and day out.
Ready to internet date like a pro?
Let’s do this!
Tip Number 1 - Be Selective.
Yes. I know only three paragraphs up I suggested you be flexible, but I’m not contradicting myself. Honest.
If you swipe right on everybody, guess what you’ll get?
Yep. Everything.
Everything, of course, except the more ‘high demand’ profiles. Users who aren't swiping like a dog with two tails will have those profiles reserved for them.
If you’ve got your head switched on, and you know what you want, and you only swipe on profiles you feel a genuine attraction to, you will be rewarded with better matches.
Tip Number 2 - Use Elaborate Vocabulary
Leave the teen speak to teenagers.
Everywhere you need to write something, write it using real grown up language.
Be that in your profile or in your messages.
Your words don’t have to be stuffy. Just natural.
Obviously, there's no need to ‘laugh out loud’. LOL is fine because it’s a widely recognised acronym.
But please avoid ‘cnt tk otp lets mt irl lmk.’ - Because, well, do I need to spell it out?
Tip Number 3 - Complete Every Part of Your Profile
Seriously. Fill in everything that you are prompted to complete.
Have a decent headline.
Use all available characters or write at least four paragraphs for your bio.
Answer the questions.
Upload 3 - 7 photographs.
Tick the boxes. Not all the boxes. But the ones that matter to you. And maybe some that don’t. Remember flexibility?
Use every opportunity you can to show your strengths and incorporate ‘keywords’.
Don’t cut corners or the algorithm can’t work it’s magic for you. Not only that, but people viewing your profile will think you can’t be arsed. Not a great first impression!
Tip Number 4 - Message Matches ASAP
Over half of the people on internet dating apps don’t message their matches.
Do you know how infuriating this is?
Do you know how frustrating it is for your matches?
Do you know what frustrated people do?
They walk.
They leave the app and take their custom elsewhere.
And do you know who hates that?
Online service providers.
If you take the plunge and send messages, you will receive great rewards.
Lecture over.
Tip Number 5 - Use All Available Features
If your app of choice rolls out a new feature. Use it.
Not only will it make your online dating ventures more fun, but it’ll please the powers that be and they’ll be more likely to promote you.
Tip Number 6 - Connect Often
Online dating service providers love active users. It shows that you are interested in meeting people.
If you pop in from time to time, swipe once or twice, then ghost for a month, they won’t take you seriously.
Pop in daily. Swipe a few people you’re interested in. Get the ball rolling. And be rewarded with decent matches.
A word of caution here. Don’t go crazy. Swiping too often, like 2000 times a day, will flag you as a bot.
Tip Number 7 - Update Your Profile Regularly
You don’t have to go mad and start from scratch every two weeks. But a little tweak here and there, or an updated photo from time to time, shows that you are active and taking this whole internet dating thing seriously.
Got a new pet? Mention it.
Change of hairstyle. Show it off.
Be a good user and don’t let your profile go stale.
Tip Number 8 - Pay
It should go without saying, but the algorithms will prioritise paying customers.
If a paying customer gets frustrated because of below par service, they will walk away.
And what self-respecting, money making venture wants that to happen?
Part with some cash and watch things improve for you.
Final Words
So there you have it.
Internet dating algorithms aren’t monsters who are just there to keep you hooked.
They will work like a dog to help you with finding the perfect match. But only if you feed them well and play nicely.
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